We decided we would start school at a set time. Monday was scheduled to begin at 10 a.m. I was there and so was one child. The other wasn’t present. Instead of hollering up the stairs and issuing a variety of calls, pleas and threats, I calmly began class.
Just before the start of the next subject the errant one arrived. “You have missed class with us,” I said, kindly, “you will have to do it after school.” Shock and tears ensued. But rather than discuss it, we cheerfully proceeded to the next subject, which we actually all enjoyed. At the end of school when consequence had to be confronted, tears began again but mother stuck to her guns, quietly, gently and sweetly. When work was completed (which wasn’t much) we had a wonderful rest of the day. The next morning you can imagine my surprise when come 7 a.m, this same child was showered, dressed and cheerfully ready for learning!
I thought this might be a one time surprise but this was a consistent practice right through the week.
Charlotte Mason says that parents facilitate ideas and ideas cause children to form a habit. The idea that Mom will call approximately 9 times before the decibel changes to a high-pitched G note – and that is when you obey, was replaced with the idea that learning is a privilege and I must be ready because it will not wait for me. No warning. One instruction, successive consequence and the understanding is clear. The idea is perceived. The habit is formed!
And it really wasn’t difficult! A little nip in the bud but so worth it as the pain-free week proved!
Thanks, Charlotte Mason!
